As a parent, it is so easy to swoop in and save the day. Now that your student is in college, it is time to perform the tough task of letting your student start to figure things out on their own. Development and maturity comes from thinking critically to solve problems.
Rather than solving the problem for them, it is important to ask questions that are supportive and encourage them to find a solution. A great thing to say is, “How are you going to handle that?” Through asking this open-ended question, your student is encouraged to have an open dialogue with you to discuss options of how to solve the situation. Your student will grow from learning how to handle problems on their own. When your daughter's roommate borrows her favorite sweater without asking, or when your son forgets that he has a paper due tomorrow morning, they will learn valuable problem-solving skills.