Women in gaming and "fake nerd girls" have become a topic of much debate recently. For every voice raised in favor of critically addressing the climate for women in gaming, a dozen more cry out in defensive, silencing backlash. This panel offers a discussion of these issues, not from the outside, but from the inside, bringing together five women from across the nerd community who have faced trolls and white knights and lived to tell their tales. The panel includes game designer Shoshana Kessock, The Mary Sue managing editor Susana Polo, cosplay model Stella Chuu, and sex educator/nerdlesque performer Iris Explosion. This panel will also discuss positive strategies to create a safer, more supportive community for women at cons and in the gaming community at large. Moderated by the founder of D20 Burlesque, Anja Keister.